"Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave." -
Martin Luther
Women are God's special creatures. They play a very important role in God's agenda. When a man is blessed with a wonderful woman as wife, you should be thankful and do everything within your power to cherish her. The scriptures say "who can find a virtuous woman? Her price is far above rubies... " It takes searching for you to find her, they don't fall from the sky and when you do get her, then, you have someone whose price is worth more than the most precious gemstone. You may not know the value of whom God has blessed you with until you see the pain another man goes through for marrying the wrong person. You come back home to the warm embrace of your wife; your neighbor comes home to meet a woman waiting to nag him to pieces. You come home to a well 'home-cooked' meal but not your neighbor; he's got to fight for every meal he gets and you think you are not blessed? You've been with same woman for 5, 10, 15 or more years. The other guy isn't that lucky: he's had to cope with 3 marriages over the same period and even contemplating the fourth and you think you are not blessed? There is yet so much your wife can do but you have a role to play. When you fail to water a plant, it will wilt with time. Women are like such plants, when you fail to 'water' them you might lose them. Although you might remain married, but you will cease to enjoy your marriage. It is of essence that you recognize and meet the needs of your wife. Examine some tips with me:
She Needs Affection and Kindness: Do you love your wife or you just see her as a piece of commodity? You cannot treat your wife more than the value you place on her. Are you thankful for whatever she does in the house or you think 'she is simply doing her job?' Be kind and affectionate towards her. Give her a kiss when she is not expecting it. Sweep her off her feet when she is off guard. An unexpected hug will make a glow. Speak softly to her and pamper her. Let her know how much you appreciate all she is doing.
Give helping hand with the kids and house chores: How we need to learn from the eagle. Both father and mother eagle share in the responsibility of raising the eaglet. Likewise, it is the joint responsibility of both parents to raise their kids. Most of the time the women spend more time with the kids and this is a full-time job on its own. Decide to help out; let her take some time off while you hang around with the kids. You can help do the dishes sometimes and you will see how she will 'melt' in your arms when you come calling. Avoid being bossy. She is your wife and not your house-maid.
Be ready to communicate: I have observed that women are always excited to share about their daily experience with their spouse, at least, from my experience. Don't shut her down because you've had a bad day at work, rather, be willing to listen and share your own experience with her as well. Your communication should not just end with the children, your job or just the serious issues at home. Find a way to spice it up. Get informal and cozy when you talk. Make it a no hold barred conversation
Daily affirm your love for her: Women love when you affirm your love for them. Give her a call from work just to let her know how much you love and appreciate her. Even when you are at home, call from the room and let her know you love her to bits. Utilize every little opportunity you have to express and affirm your love to her. Get her gifts from time to time; she would appreciate you for this. Develop your own unique style of love affirmation.
Don't hesitate to forgive: No relationship can thrive without forgiveness. Never run out of credit in your forgiveness account. You will always need it. There are times when your wife will offend you or when she may be difficult to get along with. This is not a time to rail at her rather show some understanding. Forgive even before she request for it and you'll see how your marriage will grow stronger as a result.
Take care of your body: Many men are known for not taking proper care of themselves. Personal hygiene is very important to your wife. The reason why your wife may feel a little bit withdrawn could be because you do not take good care of your body. Your wife will always find an excuse not to kiss you because of the terrible mouth odor and she may not be comfortable telling you this all the time. Do something about it, she wants much more than what you are offering her. If the reason is health related seek out medical help. Keep yourself fit. You may decide on an exercise routine with your wife. Always think about your wife and family when it comes to doing something that will adversely affect your health.
Be sensitive to her spiritual and emotional needs: Be your wife's number one counselor. Emotions may run riot within her sometimes, this is understandable.Rather than speak harshly to her, be the shoulder she can lean on. Encourage and support her to be the very best that she can be. Your wife may never rise above the support you give to her. This is why some marriages end in divorce. Don't just be a physical covering over your wife, be an encouragement to her spiritually as well.
I see your marriage moving on to the next level. You will celebrate many years together in love and peace in Jesus name. God bless you big.
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